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Daniel Rogov
Resident Curmudgeon
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Fri Jul 04, 2008 3:10 am
Tel Aviv, Israel
Daniel Rogov wrote:Covert, Hi....
True that I do not really want to know the name of my waiter or waitress, but what I hope for is far more than a just "serve me, please, thank you" relationship.
First of all on entering a restaurant I hope for a warm but sincere welcome and not one of those totally artificial "Hi! And how are you this evening?" greetings that is so full of false enthusiasm that I might think that the maitre/maitresse d'hotel knows about some odd disease that I have and do not yet even known about. Later, at the table what I hope for is that kind of friendliness that avoids familiarity, that again being sincere and warm without encroaching on my personal space.
Indeed, I value a waiter or waitress who is knowledgeable not only about the menu and the wine list but who seems to exude a general air of both intelligence and what I consider "class" (call that "style" if you like). Indeed I will often invite the person responsible for my table to sample the wine that we have brought with us but I consider that a friendly and not at all an intimate part of my pleasure. If it adds to that other person's pleasure, that is super-good with me.
In a truly fine restaurant I also hope for service that not only respond to but will almost anticipate my needs. I recall, for example, on one occasion in the Auberge Bressane in Bourg-en-Bresse making a point in discussion to my companion of raising the index finger of my left hand. The waiter, noticing that and thinking that I needed something started to approach. When he realized that I was simply gesticulating as part of conversation, he stopped at an empty table to brush an imaginary speck of dust from the tablecloth there and then retreated appropriately.
In cases where service has been exceptional, after leaving the tip, I will not infrequently approach the waiter or waitress who was responsible for our meal and thanking them by saying that they added a good deal of pleasure to our evening.
Truth is over the many years that I have been dining out I remember the name of only one waiter and that very possibly because he was first an assistant waiter, then a waiter, then the senior waiter and finally, in his near dotage the maitre d'hotel at a restaurant in Geneva that I have frequented for more than forty years. Indeed over the years we developed what might even be thought of as a relationship of love and respect and when he died, I attended his funeral in order to tell his daughters how much pleasure he had added to my life. And believe me, I am not a person who attends funerals.
And yes, I have had my share of flirtation with waitresses.
Best
Rogov
Howie Hart
The Hart of Buffalo
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